The story of money is a complicated one; representing power to those who have it and an overwhelming sense of powerlessness to those without it. For some, money creates an identity and defines their value. Money can bring fantasies into reality and doom the best relationships.
What is your relationship with money? Do you have a healthy relationship with money or a toxic one?
For most of us, “wellness” includes things like health, exercise, proper food, physical check-ups and screenings, and sleep. We may also identify emotional and spiritual health as important parts of overall wellness.
But financial health or wellness?
When was the last time you thought about your relationship with money and not just your lack of money or the never-ending pursuit of making enough money?
Considering the potential control, power and value money may ultimately hold in our lives, our financial relationship may be one of the most important ones. Relationships of all types affect our overall wellness (or lack thereof). Our relationship with money is no different.
Whether you realize it or not, your current relationship with money most likely stems from your childhood. What you do – or do not – believe about money has been shaped and reinforced by experiences you may not even remember, both good and bad.
From long-forgotten childhood memories, household fits or parental/authority-figure attitudes, many of us have formed a not-so-pleasant “story” around money:
Money Avoidance: “Money is the root of all evil.”
Money Worship: “More money will make me happier.”
Money Status: “My self-worth equals my net worth.”
But stories like these set us up for poor financial outcomes, problematic (even destructive) behaviors and unrelenting stress. So how can you improve your relationship with money?
Here are five ways to positively change the way you think, feel and act about money.
You can’t change what you don’t acknowledge:
If you have a rocky, unhealthy relationship with money, spend some time deciphering your specific “story” around money. What beliefs do you hold, consciously or unconsciously, about money? About having money? If you hate money, or view it in a negative light, you’ll never have enough of it in your life. Once you understand your beliefs and values surrounding money, you can begin to write a new, positive financial story.
Money has no moral value:
Money is only as “good” or “bad” as the power you give to it. Money does not make a person bad, selfish or evil. Many affluent people have done a lot of good in the world with their abundance of money. Conversely, money will not make a person better, productive or more valuable than someone else. Money is simply a resource to be used.
You deserve money:
If you feel (even unconsciously) that you are not worthy of financial abundance (no matter the the reason), money will always slip through your grasp.
You have the right to make a lot of money (regardless of what you do for a living).
Just because you work in an industry that is of service to others, you shouldn’t be giving it away for free. We were all given our own unique gifts to help and benefit others and ourselves!
You get what you focus on and believe in. If you believe you’ll never have enough money, that you’ll always struggle and barely survive, that’s exactly what will happen. So dream BIG and enjoy the rewards of your positive beliefs and new financial story in your bank account and your overall wellness!
Corrie Ann Gray is a writer, researcher, coach, and cookie enthusiast who lives in Los Angeles, CA. She started the Clean Body Project to share all of her knowledge and resources with others who are interested in running their own experiment into clean holistic living. She is the CEO and founder of Gray Ink Media.